Milos Moda

Tag: Mindset

  • Don’t Focus on the Outcome

    Lately, I’ve been reflecting on how I process things in my mind—constantly revisiting the same thoughts just to explain them again, hoping to reach some sort of complete understanding or internal “alignment.” But what I’ve noticed is that this rarely helps. More often than not, it traps me in a loop I call “cyclic thinking”—a state where I keep rethinking the same topics just to ensure I’ve covered every angle.

    Focus on Your Best Effort

    At the core of this habit is the need to make everything perfect and to avoid making mistakes at all costs. But this mindset is rooted in our most basic insecurities—the fear of failure, of being wrong, of not being enough. The truth is, we don’t need to constantly chase a perfect outcome. What we really need is to show up, do our best, and accept that the outcome—whatever it may be—is just part of the process.

    You don’t always need to be in perfect “alignment” with yourself to move forward. What matters is that you understand what’s happening, know what needs to be done, and keep pushing toward what you want—regardless of the fear, doubt, or discomfort along the way.

    It’s okay to feel unsure. It’s okay to be afraid. These feelings are simply a byproduct of our deep desire to be perfect, loved, and respected. Acknowledge them—and then keep going.

    Cheers

  • Always Be Willing to Challenge Your Beliefs

    For me, some of the biggest questions in life revolve around our views on morality, ethics, politics, and philosophy—and how we adopt identities based on what we believe in. As someone who has long identified as a left-leaning liberal, I’ve had my fair share of ups and downs supporting partisan views that didn’t fully align with who I am. But because I saw myself through that lens, defending those views felt natural—almost necessary. Looking back, I believe that was a mistake.

    Don’t stop believing but regularly check what you believe in.

    Take Stoicism as another example. It resonated with me deeply at one point because it promoted values like bravery, resilience, and perseverance—traits I still admire. But it also encourages radical acceptance, even in situations where change is possible and necessary. That’s where I started to feel a disconnect. Some things shouldn’t just be accepted; they should be challenged and changed, especially when no real sacrifice is required for some abstract “greater good.”

    I still believe it’s important to hold strong opinions and have a clear worldview—but those views should be flexible and open to growth. If you never challenge your beliefs, you deny yourself the opportunity to evolve. You end up clinging to outdated ideas simply because you feel obligated to “stay true” to them.

    Freeing yourself from that burden gives you space to grow and to genuinely support what resonates with you today—not just what once did. It allows you to stand for things that truly reflect who you are now and who you want to become.

    Don’t be a slave to your beliefs. Question them, reshape them, and let them grow with you.

    Cheers!