I once heard Tom Ford say, “The sexiest thing you can bring with you is confidence,” and I couldn’t agree more. But as you probably know, confidence doesn’t come from doing just one thing well—it requires us to reframe how we see ourselves and the world around us.
Our desires, childhood experiences, and even the lives of others can influence us and create insecurities for all the wrong reasons. That’s why we need a different approach to how we value and measure confidence. For me, the easiest path to boosting confidence has often been to stop doing the things I don’t like—either in myself or in others—rather than trying to start something completely new.
For example, it was much easier to stop overeating by introducing a simple fasting routine than trying to train every day just to keep up with my calorie intake. Another simple trick: I reduced my sugar consumption by not buying it in the first place, or at least by making it less visible in my fridge. Out of sight, out of mind.
Something else that greatly boosts my confidence is keeping the promises I make to myself. That’s why I stick to a schedule and try to treat it as non-negotiable. It may take some spontaneity out of certain parts of my day, but it also frees up space in my “unstructured” time to play, explore, or simply do what I enjoy—guilt-free.
In the end, confidence grows when we consistently prove to ourselves that we follow through—that we show up for our own goals and project the image we want to present to the world. That’s why self-image is so important. For me, it ranks just behind self-worth.
As the saying goes, every journey begins with a single step. The same applies here: build your confidence by doing the simple things—small actions that improve your lifestyle, or just by avoiding habits you don’t admire in yourself or others.
