I’ve always wanted to pick up new things—from playing the guitar to learning how to code—but it was never easy for me. The desire to feel free and move from one thing to another has always been the main force driving my life. It’s as if I didn’t want to feel “locked in” by obligations I placed on myself. And that fear often meant failing to commit to anything that required consistent, repetitive practice over years—or even decades.
But maybe the issue wasn’t the feeling of being trapped. Maybe it was the approach I took to building habits. I didn’t enjoy the process as much as I thought I would, and that made all the difference.
Over the years, many of my interests were either fulfilled, forgotten, or replaced. Some just fell away, never to be picked up again. But a few stuck—like Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu or going to the gym regularly. These became part of my life not because I forced them, but because I genuinely enjoyed them. I look forward to every opportunity to train or work out.
It seems the activities that truly resonate with us are the ones that naturally stick. Maybe we shouldn’t try to “domesticate” ourselves or force decisions about what we must do. Instead, we could gently explore different interests, try new things, and pay attention to what feels right along the way.
And if something falls off later? That’s okay too. Don’t beat yourself up about it.
Cheers.
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